Thursday, January 7, 2016


            The Real Fight


The Story of Marriage, for most of us, includes many challenges with each other,with  kids and others who we fight with. We cultivate anger, frustration, bitterness and disappointment. We fight. 

I think we were made for a fight. I think good and evil have always existed. Just about every movie, tv show, book or story has a good guy and bad. There are causes to fight for, and we love them. 

We have learned, however, how to fight with each other and have often forgotten our most important fight is NOT actually with the humans we do life with. Rather, our fight is with an invisible enemy of God and man. 

Ephesians 5 is a chapter of the New Testament that speaks to relationships. Verse one gives us a blueprint for great relationships.

-         Follow God’s Example
-         As dearly loved children
-         Walk in the way of love just as Christ loved us
-         And gave himself up for us, as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God

As we write our own Story of Marriage we must learn The Real Fight is with a spiritual enemy of God and us. Our fight is NOT with our spouse. It isn’t even with our selves or our family. Every problem with marriage begins with a problem between us and God or us and his enemy.

-         We don’t submit and serve God
-         We do submit to and serve the Enemy of God

Vs 1-20 of Ephesians gives us a very specific and empowering picture of what living in the blessing of God looks and feels like. It is not a list of rules, as much as a set of beliefs, practices and blessings, offered to the one who will submit and follow God and God alone.

As we turn from the vertical relationship with God, to the horizontal relationship with each other, the teaching from Ephesians speak to how a marriage should begin. It says.. “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ”.

-         First, have reverence for Christ
-         Second, submit to one another out of that reverence

By Ephesians 6:12 we are learning that we are in fact in a war, but a war against rulers, authorities and powers of this dark world and spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms, not our spouse.

We are taught several things…
-         We are in a struggle
-         Not against flesh and blood (Genesis 2:23, “….bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh, she will be called woman….)
-         Rather against levels of darkness that aim to steal, kill and destroy us, from the inside out.

In the coming months, through classes, small groups and other efforts we will teach, coach and encourage our church and city friends to learn to fight the proper fight. 

I am praying my friends and I can take these steps. 

-         Stop writing the Story of Struggle against your spouse, or family members
-         Begin writing a Story of Blessing to your flesh and blood and fight the real enemy in the real fight.
-         Submit to and Bless my spouse, Fight and Defeat the enemy. 

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